Polyvagal Informed Couples Therapy

A relationship focused approach that helps partners understand each other's nervous system responses, reduce conflict, and rebuild safety and connection.

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Quick Overview

A snapshot of who this therapy is for and how it works

Best for

couples navigating conflict, disconnection, trauma histories, or communication difficulties

Session format

In person or virtual

Typical cadence

Weekly or biweekly. Session length 60 to 90 minutes

Duration

Short to medium term, typically 12 to 20 sessions depending on needs

Often combined with

Emotionally Focused Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, Internal Family Systems, Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills

Evidence base

Grounded in Dr. Stephen Porges’ Polyvagal Theory and adapted for relational healing

What Is Polyvagal Informed Couples Therapy?

Polyvagal Informed Couples Therapy uses the principles of Polyvagal Theory to help partners understand how their autonomic nervous systems influence emotions, reactions, and relationship patterns.

This therapy helps couples:

Identify Stress Responses

Identify triggers that fuel conflict or emotional distance

Recognize Conflict Triggers

Use co regulation practices to restore safety in the moment

Practice Co-Regulation

Strengthen ventral vagal states that support intimacy and trust

Build Safety & Connection

Recognize when one or both partners are in fight or flight

How Polyvagal Informed Couples Therapy Helps Relationships

A nervous system based approach to improving intimacy, trust, and communication

Reduces conflict cycles

Helps partners understand and interrupt stress driven reactions

Supports trauma healing

Helps couples stay connected even when trauma symptoms arise.

Improves communication

Encourages empathy, validation, and nervous system aware listening.

Builds resilience

Helps couples face challenges as a united and regulated team.

What to Expect in Sessions

Polyvagal Informed Couples Therapy is experiential, collaborative, and focused on building relational safety. Sessions may include:

Education and Awareness

Learning how the nervous system influences emotional and relational patterns.

Mapping Stress and State Shifts

Identifying fight, flight, and shutdown cycles in the relationship.

Co Regulation Practices

Breathwork, grounding, or connection exercises practiced together.

Communication Tools

Speaking and listening from a regulated state rather than reactivity.

Integration and Daily Practice

Applying new regulation and communication skills at home to deepen connection

Who Benefits from Polyvagal Informed Couples Therapy?

Support for partners seeking safety, connection, and emotional steadiness

This therapy is helpful for couples who want to reduce conflict, deepen trust, or understand each other on a nervous system level.

Couples Experiencing Frequent Conflict or Tension

Support for interrupting reactive cycles and slowing down escalation

Partners Struggling With Emotional Disconnection

Tools for rebuilding closeness when shutdown or anxiety are present

Relationships Affected by Trauma or PTSD

A trauma informed framework for understanding symptoms without blame.

Couples Rebuilding Intimacy and Trust

Support for reconnecting after stress, betrayal, or relational ruptures.

Any Partnership Wanting Greater Nervous System Awareness

Encourages a shared language of safety, presence, and compassion

Why TruPaths Highlights Polyvagal Informed Couples Therapy

TruPaths highlights this therapy because many couples are not struggling with love, but with dysregulation. When partners learn how their nervous systems function, they gain the clarity and safety needed to communicate, heal, and thrive together.

FAQs About Polyvagal Informed Couples Therapy

How is this different from regular couples therapy?

It focuses on nervous system states rather than only communication techniques, making it especially effective for trauma influenced relationships.

Is this helpful for high conflict couples?

Yes. It helps couples calm their nervous systems, reduce reactivity, and respond with more safety and understanding.

Do both partners need trauma histories?

No. Even without trauma histories, couples benefit from learning how stress and emotions affect connection.

How long does therapy usually take?

The length varies based on goals and challenges, but many couples notice improvements within a few sessions.

Can it improve intimacy and connection?

Yes. By increasing emotional safety, it supports deeper trust, closeness, and healthy communication.

Is it covered by insurance?

Coverage depends on your insurance plan and provider. Some plans cover sessions with licensed therapists.

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